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May 18, 2020

Dear Kip, 

I have always felt it is important for me to model behavior I expect from others: at work, with my kids, and in a relationship. 

If it is important to me that teachers give all students a chance, then that is what I need to do for students.  If I want my students to use kind words while speaking to each other, I need to speak kindly to my students.  If I want my partner to adore me, then I need to adore him first. 

So, back in January as I was preparing to enter the dating world again, I would daydream about what kind of relationship I would want to model for my own children. Faithful, definitely.  Fun, absolutely.  Respectful, of course.  But having a relationship worth modeling to children needs to be labeled by more than just adjectives.  It needs depth and depth comes in the form of actions, not adjectives. 

I could picture the relationship, but I couldn't picture the man, until I met you.  Kip, I want to model this relationship with you…for our children so that they can recreate it in their own lives.  I want to show our kids what love looks like.  I want to let them see you kiss me in the kitchen.  I want to let them see me snuggle with you on the couch.  I want to let them see you hold my hand on a walk.  I want to let them see me flirt with you when you leave in the morning and when you get home at night.  I want to let them see you make me laugh. 

I want our children to see us love each other so well that they will know that love is worth it…because now I know it is...with you.  I want our children to be able to say, “I just really want a love like theirs.”

Love you always,

Brandy Lynne