May 18, 2020
Dear Kip,
I have always felt it is important for me to
model behavior I expect from others: at work, with my kids, and in a
relationship.
If it is important to me that teachers give all
students a chance, then that is what I need to do for students. If I want my students to use kind words while
speaking to each other, I need to speak kindly to my students. If I want my partner to adore me, then I need
to adore him first.
So, back in January as I was preparing to enter the dating world again, I would daydream about what kind of relationship I would want to model for my own children. Faithful, definitely. Fun, absolutely. Respectful, of course. But having a relationship worth modeling to children needs to be labeled by more than just adjectives. It needs depth and depth comes in the form of actions, not adjectives.
I could picture the relationship, but I couldn't picture the man, until I met you. Kip, I want to model this relationship with you…for our children so that they can recreate it in their
own lives. I want to show our kids what
love looks like. I want to let them see
you kiss me in the kitchen. I want to
let them see me snuggle with you on the couch.
I want to let them see you hold my hand on a walk. I want to let them see me flirt with you when
you leave in the morning and when you get home at night. I want to let them see you make me
laugh.
I want our children to see us love each other so well that they will know that love is worth it…because now I know it is...with you. I want our children to be able to say, “I just really want a love like theirs.”
Love you always,
Brandy Lynne
